Beth, Frank & Lyla


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Introduction

Hi! We are Beth and Frank from New Jersey! Thank you so much for taking the time to read about us. We are so excited to be on this adoption journey and growing our family. We don’t pretend to understand what you are going through right now, but we do understand the gravity of this decision, and how much you must already love this child to be considering an adoption plan. We were blessed back in 2009 with the adoption of our daughter, Lyla. We hope our profile gives you a good glimpse at what our life is like, so that you can find comfort in knowing how loved this child will be as part of our family.

About Us

Beth and Frank met in 2003 in New York City, at an event that Beth’s company had thrown for a client. Frank was in town from Indiana on unrelated business, so we like to say it was fate that we happened to be in the same place at the same time! We dated long distance for 10 months and then Frank moved to NY. We have very similar interests, and have both learned to embrace each other’s passions – specifically Beth has become a very good apprentice for Frank’s DIY home projects, and Frank is a happy guinea pig for new recipes Beth tries out in the kitchen! We got married in 2006 with a big wedding surrounded by friends and family from NY, NJ, FL and IN. We view everything as an adventure together, which has been a philosophy our kids have greatly enjoyed too!

Frank has two daughters from a previous marriage: Liz who is 25 and married to Nick; and Aimee who is 22 and engaged to Chance. Both girls live in Indiana and we try to see them as often as we can. Lyla is almost five years old, and although they live far apart, she is very close with her sisters and brothers-in-law, but she also has our six year-old dog, Shaemus, to keep her company at home. We have kept in touch with her birthmother through Facebook, and we send her letters, pictures and Lyla’s artwork a few times per year. She lives far away, so we haven’t seen her since we came back to NJ, but it’s been wonderful to keep our connection and we do hope to see her again one day soon! We would love to be able to have that type of relationship with our second birth family, if they are open to it as well.

Family Life

Lyla is sweet, creative, silly, curious, outgoing and always on the move. Beth is a stay-at-home mom, so she keeps their days filled with activities (like crafts and baking) and day trips (zoos, aquariums, parks, library, etc.). Lyla is in pre-K and will be attending kindergarten in the fall, and also plays soccer, is in dance class, and takes swimming lessons in the summer. We have some fun traditions that we all love, including a gingerbread house contest at Christmas time with all our kids (this year it was girls vs. boys, last year it was oldest vs. youngest!); a family Jets day which serves as a chance for Beth’s family to get together to remember her Uncle Jack and watch his favorite team play football (with so many little cousins running around we now host this at our house); and The Easter Games, which we host and Beth creates a ton of Easter-themed games for everyone to play, and caps the day off with an award ceremony and “candy medal” presentation.

About Beth, through Frank’s eyes
“Beth is truly a wonderful, caring person who is able to keep everything in perspective. Her thoughtfulness shines through on a daily basis – whether it’s realizing someone’s had a bad day, checking in with someone on an important day or giving a little gift to make someone smile. She is so compassionate and willing to help everyone and anyone. She just has a way of making everyone feel so loved and special…especially our children! Beth is very close with all three of our daughters, and they rely on her so much. Watching her with Lyla has been such a gift – especially this past year that she’s become a stay-at- home mom. Beth and Lyla are always up to something great, and it’s been very fun to watch (and sometimes join in, of course!).”

About Frank, through Beth’s eyes
“Frank is the hardest working, most honest and reliable person I’ve ever met. He’s funny and caring, makes really great chili, and is always there when I need him – whether it’s to laugh, cry, vent, relieve my stress or just have fun. Even though we’ve been together for a decade, I still get butterflies when I spot him in a crowd, and we always have a great time together. Frank is also an incredible father. He has always had a special and very close relationship with each of his daughters, and he continues to wow me every day with his love for them. From embracing Lyla’s love of “handyman working with daddy” to getting on the floor to play My Little Pony and Princesses, to homework and wedding planning with the older girls, he is so present and active in their lives. And his dedication goes beyond being a devoted husband and father. He is the first to arrive when friends or family need DIY help on their house; he always make sure we save time to see his best friends (for 25+ years!) when we visit the kids in Indiana; and he serves as a mentor to his employees who often become his friends. He is such a strong and positive force in so many lives!”

We belong to a transracial adoption group so that Lyla can be surrounded by and have connections with other kids in a blended family like ours. Hair is also a big part of our life! Beth has learned how to do cornrows, all kinds of twists, and she’s always letting Lyla pick out a new style for her to master.

We use a lot of Frank’s vacation days to see our daughters in Indiana, but we also always make sure we save time for a family vacation. We love the beach, so we often rent a house at either the Jersey Shore or in North Carolina. Day trips excursions are also fun, so we go apple picking and pumpkin picking every year, attend many parades and cultural festivals in our town, and since we’re close to NYC there are plenty of adventures there as well.

Our Friends & Family

We are blessed to have a big, close-knit immediate family! Between Facebook and Facetime, Liz, Aimee, Nick and Chance never seem too far away and Lyla loves having so many older sisters and brothers-in-law. We also have a wonderful, supportive extended family with Beth’s mom, our five siblings and their spouses, nine nieces and nephews, ranging in age from seven to 26, and aunts, uncles and cousins. We are very close with our whole family, and have a very special relationship with Beth’s mom, who we see very often. She’s such a wonderful grandma!

We also have many close friends who are more like family, both locally and remotely, in Indiana. Both of us have friendships that have lasted more than 25 years, and it’s been amazing watching our kids grow up together. With so many family and friends, there always seems to be a reason to celebrate, so we see everyone often. Even when there’s nothing to celebrate, you’ll often find family and friends at our house or in our backyard because we love to entertain.

All of our family and friends were thrilled when Lyla was born. Almost all of them found reasons to “stop by” in the days after we brought her home because they couldn’t wait to meet her. My mom and cousin surprised us with a baby shower/meet-the-family party when Lyla was two weeks old. And when Lyla was two months old we brought her out to Indiana, where we were surprised by another baby shower thrown by Frank’s family. And everyone is just as excited that we have decided to grow our family again.

Our Home and Community

We live in a three-bedroom house at the end of a street, next to a school, with a golf course behind us. We have a big backyard with a playground and, in the warmer months, we bring out the inflatable bounce house and sprinklers. We have a basketball hoop in the driveway, too, though it mostly sees games of H.O.R.S.E. these days. Frank has done a lot of work on the house himself, including renovating the kitchen, enclosing the porch, and finishing the full basement. Inside we have a playroom on the main floor, and a big family entertainment room in the basement. We live in an extremely diverse area, and have many opportunities to attend festivals celebrating all different cultures. We are also very close to beaches, NYC, many museums and surrounded by public playgrounds.

Our message to you

We have so much love to share, and so many more adventures to experience. We are excited to expand our family through adoption and continue the fun! Thank you again for taking the time to read our profile, and considering us as adoptive parents. We are open to having a continued relationship with you, and please know that if you choose us to parent your child, he or she will always know that your choice was made of love, and took courage & strength. We will love this child unconditionally, and he or she will have their own unique place in our family and in our hearts. We wish you all the best!

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